“The greatest mistake I’ve ever made in parenting was following the advice of others instead of intuitively doing what the Holy Spirit placed inside me.” – amber j.hernandez
Today as I was reading Unschooling Rules by Clark Aldrich, I was realizing that as a mom and teacher, I don’t really know my boys. I’m good at thinking I know what’s best for them and I’m awesome in the area of telling them what to do and how it should be done, but truth be told… I don’t ‘know’ them the way I could… and should. I’m seeing how there’s so much more to each child than simply making sure they can read, write, and add. Each boy is unique and has different interests and abilities. Sure, this is most likely common knowledge to other people, but to me it didn’t come so naturally. Being an only child was my first hurdle in understanding, the second was being in unfamiliar waters of spending real time with them. Quality time, not just physically being in the same room. As a school age child growing up, I didn’t have a parent who was truly present. My interests and abilities were most definitely not pursued and that really affected me. I don’t want to repeat that same behavior with my boys.
This really is the part where I get nervous. Just the other day I fully understood how deeply rooted this fear was and what it was called: ‘fear… of… Failure’! *dun dun dun*
Ugh, Yuck! Well, NO MORE! I am refusing to be controlled by fear any longer!
I have decided to follow through with what I clearly heard God tell me what my responsibilities are with my boys:
That’s it. No bossing, ordering, yelling, demanding and commanding.
Now, with that tangent over with, I can get back to my purpose for writing this post. Let’s see, where was I?… Oh, right! I was talking about how it’s important to be connectedly involved with my 4 boys…
(Hmmm, I’m thinking that maybe I should have subcategories to this post, if not, I may go on and on and on. Those of you reading this may just want to get to the point instead of following all of my verbal rabbit trails.)
Yes, that’s what I’ll do… Stay tuned! O:-)